Boyfriends (& Husbands)
There’s been a flurry of chicks lately that have come in and then subsequently had their SO completely freak out over their visit. In one case the girl and her BF broke up over her continued visits. In another the BF “flipped his lid” when he saw his girlfriend’s images on the web site. Apparently, now she can’t even write an email without him “watching her like a hawk”. She even had to cancel modeling gigs because of his insecurity. In yet another case, the husband showed up to collect his wife after the shoot, came in, saw the whip marks upon her body and then struck her over it. It took me about three seconds to run over to him, throw him out of the house and then get into an all out brawl with him in the front yard. He went to jail that evening.
It is a tale I’ve heard over and over again. Most guys seem to think their woman is a freak for wanting to be tied up and strangled during sex (insert any BDSM activity) –they think something is wrong with her, that she is self destructive. Then there is another set that might be accommodating on some sub par level but just feels like he doesn’t know how or what to do or simply finds tying his babe up with frequency too much trouble. And then there’s a whole other set that is scared of a vibrator. Afraid it might replace them rather than enhance things.
I often find myself wondering why these chicks continue to date/married to a man that prevents them from realizing those things they find important in their own, personal lives. A facet that is often an underlying current in their very make-up, their daily thoughts, their sexuality, what they think about when they masturbate. In other words, it is a strong element or characteristic of who they are, yet they allow themselves to be muted, repressed. I’m confused by this behavior. Don’t they want someone who will support them, encourage them and embellish them?
I also live in this world that haunts these SOs:
For me, the single most important element to a relationship is where my partner’s heart lies –not where her physical attributes reside at any moment of the day.
You may be on the unfortunate end of seeing these girls’ relationships crumble before your eyes, BUT… You, and the work you do, is often the catalyst for the girls being able to see what is inside of them, what’s intrinsically driving them and what they would otherwise smother in order to fit into the role of “acceptable” girlfriend/wife/SO.
Sometimes it takes an Attic to help the girls get out of a relationship with a crappy boyfriend/psychotic husband.
You do more important work than you could possibly know, JR.
Bravo N. I say let them come “no pun intended” and whatever the consequences in the “real world” be damned. When a girl applies for a shoot at the attic there are obviously many reasons that brought them and not all of them are sexual. If i had to wager I would say it is more a psychological experience rather than a carnal one. Keep doing the wonderful fufilling work that you do JR and pay no heed to those with a less broad minded approach to the world and everything in it.
Cheers
Alpha
And then there are the rare few boyfriends who actually enjoy knowing that their girlfriend is in intense bondage, experiencing exquisite pain and pleasure, even if it is at the hands of another man.
I happen to be one of these boyfriends, and am very fortunate to date a fetish and bondage model. In fact, it is because of her that I have become established as a male talent in the adult industry. We sometimes work together, but often shoot with others. Still, we like to travel together to these shoots, usually to keep the drive from being too boring. Mostly, it’s because we like to watch each other in action. I love nothing more then to sit back silently in a far corner off-camera watching as it all transpires. The dynamic between my girlfriend and her captor, her tormentor. I love seeing her cry out in anguish, or scream out in pleasure. It’s a beautiful thing.
Unfortunately, I have had to miss out watching her on a number of shoots, even though I am an established, experienced adult performer. And why is that? Because of the abundance of jealous, small-minded, insecure boyfriends and husbands as described above. Directors, producers, videographers, riggers, webmasters, etc. have have all had to deal with drama at one time or another, and it’s just easier for them to have the girls keep their SO’s away from the shoot.
To all the boyfriends and husbands reading this, who have a girlfriend or wife currently shooting for this site, or are consdering shooting for it… Here is some friendly advice. Instead of getting jealous, angry and abusive, how about you sit down and talk with her? Ask what her thoughts are about her experience. Ask her what she liked and didn’t like. Ask her what turned her on. Guess what? She orgasmed, probably massively, and several times at that. Get over it. Be happy for her. Open your mind, and I promise you your relationship will move to a higher, more exciting and rewarding level.
Best regards. -Tyler